polyam-adjacent, relationships, negotiating 

These things should be a normal part of negotiating in a healthy relationship. Stop treating random-ass arbitrary mores as gospel and then blaming the divergent party.

Normalise talking about boundaries. Normalise encouraging boundaries, for fuck's sake. Your relationship isn't perfect. It won't be. You'll have conflicting needs. Figure out a protocol for dealing with them before something major occurs that destabilises both of you.

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re: polyam-adjacent, relationships, negotiating 

(was talking about informed consent, polyamory etc in a private thread, but unlocked this post because it's more general)

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