some wistful sonder on identity
it's late and I should go to bed but I feel so, so alone, like I'm the only lgbt bornean guy in the world - but trying to connect with others like me will come with the wonderful side-effect of me not feeling bornean enough since I'm neither muslim nor christian and I can't understand enough malay, indonesian, or chinese to hold a conversation
STILL thinking about ethnicity n identity among racial issues, but this time it's tied into lgbt issues
a lot of this is probably a direct result of anxiety, but I don't know since I can't think so clearly. all I really know is that even in the supposed "safe space" of the online lgbt community, I'm made to feel as though I should be aracial because my skin color isn't dark enough to be "brown" but it's not quite "white" - like the racism that was supposed to combat is only being bolstered by it
STILL thinking about ethnicity n identity among racial issues, but this time it's tied into lgbt issues
this is why the detroit lgbt flag ("lgbtpoc") bothers me so much, because the original rainbow flag included me, but the Black and Brown racial stripes don't, so to see it on the internet, far removed from its detroit context, while being touted as "more inclusive" makes me feel so alienated. I've never felt more alone in a community than when seeing someone use that flag outside of detroit.
still thinking about ethnicity n identity among racial issues, one kinda-sorta anti-chinese slur
I know the vast majority of people probably don't mean this when they say Black and Brown people, but when I hear that phrase, my anxiety parses it as a dog-whistle for "black and latine people, chinamen not allowed unless thoroughly tanned" or "you're not a real rainforest islander unless your skin is THIS dark, because No True Scotsman..."
transphobia, unnecessary gendering
And now cis people are all like, "They're stealing all our tomboys! They're stealing our butches!"
First of all, we weren't yours, second if you wouldn't consider Griffin or Daniel Radcliffe butch or super masculine, why are you calling my ass that when my gender presentation is the same sort of dorky hipster dad deal?
thinking about ethnicity n identity among racial issues
it bothers me that there's no concise way to refer to non-white people that I feel comfy with. People of Color is too close to the antiquated Colored People and Black and Brown people only serves to make me feel like kid me "didn't count" since I was pale as snow (and I'm still really damn pale, could easily pass for a white guy with a tan)
'A Telegram bug that disclose phone numbers of any users in public groups' https://docs.google.com/document/d/e/2PACX-1vRx2wO2kj0axlQtv2CDSjPGlRKJOHtucvpOKGFKybh2eVVGZqvt_JJv-2Q11NHn5Y4um_F4-bgA6q5v/pub
transphobia, TSA
So basically the TSA auto flags trans bodies. https://twitter.com/kris_critter/status/1164636940550975488?s=21
Great thread by @Critter and thank you for doing this work.
i'm just really super tired of people waving around Trans Acceptance flags at trans men and trans masc people as if saying "no YOU'RE okay because you're a TRANS man" is being nice and supportive
it isn't
it's telling us "you are not a real man because real men are awful"
Queer / Respectability / "Obnoxious" / Cursing
The idea that "new baby queers" are "too loud and obnoxious" about their identities is irritating at best and malicious at worst.
The queer community has ALWAYS been loud. ("We're here, we're queer, get used to it!")
Being loud and proud has been a constant in our fight for our rights. We should not have to be quiet just because you personally don't want to broadcast your personal identity to the world. You don't have to. But you don't get to tell everyone else that they can't, either.
I spent my whole life being told to sit down, shut up, and do what others told me to do. Be what others told me to be.
I fought tooth and claw for my identity, and I will scream about it however much I want. You can pry my gender and my sexuality from my cold, dead claws, you fucking cowards.
I'm queer. I'm nonbinary. I'm bisexual. I'm a maverique.
And I am here to make the majority uncomfortable.
— Vik (They/them)
Study concludes that the best way to disrupt hate groups online is to fucking ban them:
https://arstechnica.com/science/2019/08/tracking-online-hate-groups-reveals-why-theyre-resilient-to-bans/
as might seem curious but in such a way that your learned cynicism deprives you of surprise, the rich are remarkably inept at managing wealth:
> The tragedy of digital media isn’t that it’s run by ruthless, profiteering guys in ill-fitting suits; it’s that the people posing as the experts know less about how to make money than their employees, to whom they won’t listen.
why is it that so many workplaces work the very same way?
https://theconcourse.deadspin.com/the-adults-in-the-room-1837487584
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