magical @magical@computerfairi.es

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another reason: i don't really feel like my gender is an integral part of my personality or self-image

i think the reason i prefer to go by gender-neutral pronouns online is that /my gender shouldn't matter/. judge me by my ideas; check your prejudices at the door.

in-person, sure, it's difficult to avoid being gendered, and i don't really mind. but online it's easy.

I'd like to know how the writers of Fate/stay night [unlimited blade works] thought that "i am the bone of my sword" was a good translation for 体は剣で出来ている = "my body is made of swords"

good morning

i need to stop starting these threads late at night 💤

i have all these messaging apps, with friends i could talk to, people i know, but i would never think to text someone without a very specific reason in mind. a link i know they'd like, a question that only they can answer, etc. this doesn't happen very often.

do people actually chat for fun? what do you talk about?

i'm so dang introverted. my idea of a fun weekend is to hack on some code, or read a book, or whatever.

what can i do to be a better friend?

🎵 Trade your broken wings for mine

And in this in moment, I need to be needed
With this darkness all around me
I like to be liked
In this emptiness and fear I want to be wanted
'Cos I love to be loved
I love to be loved
I love to be loved
I love to be loved

I crave validation
I'm terrified of rejection

I can't believe that anyone would want to follow me, so I hang onto my followers for dear life. I can't believe anyone would want to hear what I have to say, so I avoid saying anything at all. don't rock the boat. I'm afraid to express an opinion on anything, lest someone disagree. I'm afraid to look stupid. I'm afraid to be wrong.

perverse incentives. i don't know how to measure real friendship, so i accept the artificial substitites that we present in its place: follows, stars. I'm terrified that I'll say the wrong thing and lose a follower. why? I don't know

moreover, I hate that I mostly use mastodon to post these long, introspective threads. get a blog! where are the dumb jokes? where are the hot takes? where are the mundane thoughts of a normal, living, breathing, well-adjusted human being?

I want to be that kind of person but I don't know how. how do you seem to spend your every waking moment online? I have a job, and hobbies. I can't be constantly checking my phone.

like I said, I don't think I've made any friends on mastodon. there are people I'd like to be friends with (hi), but I have no idea if they feel the same way. that's because of a basic asymmetry of social media: if I follow you and you post a lot, I start to feel like I know you. but if I don't post very much, you might have no idea I exist.