mini gender rant/subtoot
anyway, saying "if you're non-binary then you're trans by definition because your gender identity doesn't match your assigned sex, sorry that's just how it is" sounds like very similar reasoning to me as saying "if you have a penis then you're male by definition because boys have penises, sorry that's just how it is" and I don't like where that leads
mini gender rant/subtoot
I'm not saying you have to have to medically transition to be trans! if you haven't, and you identify as transgender, great! good for you.
all I'm saying is it's pretty common (almost every trans person I know either already has or intends to medically transition in some way) and I don't feel comfortable adopting the term "trans" for myself.
and I'm not going to let anyone tell me that I can't be non-binary
mini gender rant/subtoot
however, I feel very little body dysphoria and I have no plans to pursue any sort of medical transition. so to call myself trans feels disingenuous. I can easily pass as cis if I want to. I will never face the kind of discrimination that, say, a trans woman might face. to call myself trans would be to erase the experiences of trans people who actually transition, and their unique hardships
mini gender rant/subtoot
I identify as non-binary because I reject the gender binary, because I refuse to be confined to any one (binary) gender, and because my presentation does not always match my assigned gender.
I wish I didn't feel like I had to have a filter up all the time. I'm always afraid that I'll say something weird and like, lose followers, which is dumb. or accidentally reveal "too much" about myself, whatever that means.
this was supposed to be my filter-less account but it didn't really work out that way. it's hard. i'm trying
"The primary defining characteristic of shyness is a largely ego-driven fear of what other people will think of a person's behavior. This results in a person becoming scared of doing or saying what they want to out of fear of negative reactions, being laughed at, humiliated or patronized, criticism or rejection. A shy person may simply opt to avoid social situations instead."
"This commonly occurs in new situations or with unfamiliar people."
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can i be real a second? / for just a millisecond? / let down my guard and tell the people how i feel a second?
β formerly of witches.town β feels β introverted, kinky, geeky, shy, catperson πΈ β they/them β gender is a hoax β
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