It is a little frustrating that I've spent all of today cooking or cleaning, and my husband is fucking around in VR, and if I mention it to him he'll be "I GUESS I'M NEVER ALLOWED TO HAVE FUN THEN"
Like, that is never what I mean. I don't mean "I'm not having any fun so you're not allowed to have any fun". I don't mean "please get rid of your VR equipment and all your toys and live a joyless existence from here on because I'm a hateful bitch"
I just want to know where MY fun is. Where MY rest is.
But I guess I better stir the bolognese and clean up the kitchen.
@Tarale if you can't talk to him about this in a reasonable manner then... yeah, something is wrong. either y'all need couples counseling or somethin but that ain't healthy
@Xkeeper apparently this shit is super common as soon as a baby arrives in a household. There's a massive increase in work to be done, and it almost always winds up being distributed super unevenly. And because one parent goes to work and earns money for everyone it's super common for them to flip their wig when the stay at home parent begs for some help
@kungtotte @Xkeeper Oh, we've done the flip his wig thing, it's not constructive. Also potentially not good for the little one, if he witnesses it. I just wish I could avoid this defensive "ahh i'm being criticised i'm the victim wahhh" shit
@kungtotte @Xkeeper Like, once he gets defensive, he's in a headspace where he seems to be completely unable to hear what I'm actually saying at all.