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My family is like, "It makes [x] sad that they can't emotionally abuse you now that you've cut off all contact from them. It would really mean a lot if you let them back into your life now that you are happy and successful without them."
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What do you do with enablers? People who value unity over setting boundaries, and downplay abuse, insisting you give people 1000th second chances?
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A lot of online writing on enabling is basically blaming victims for "enabling" the other person to abuse them.
It's not about people who are a third party to the abuse; who encourage the abuse to continue and support the abuser while being out of harm's way.
So the advice is worst than worthless, because it blames people for being trapped in abusive relationships.
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Idk I just think there's a major difference between someone covering up abuse to save face when they are not being harmed by it...and someone constantly appeasing their abuser because they are terrified of being hurt or killed.
/shrug emoji
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A lot of this shit is also about drug addiction, in a way that's very shaming and ignorant. It's conflating drug addiction with abuse, blaming drug addicts for being addicted, and blaming their support network for "allowing" the addiction to continue.
What about teachers who see bruises on kids and turn a blind eye? What about churches that shuffle around pedophile priests? What about police departments that vehemently protect racist cops?
Those, to me, are the enablers.
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I'm not saying that drug addiction can't be very harmful to people and relationships, but it is also a medical and a psychological issue, whereas the garbage I am finding is acting like 1) all drug addiction is equivalent to abusing people and 2) if you are addicted you are being willful. It's very conservative and DARE in its outlook.
