@slooploon Ursula K. LeGuin's The Dispossessed might fit. It is about an theoretical physicist and his experiences in his own anarchistic society and a hierarchical/archistic one.

* Written by white woman
* Follows a male POV, so if it passes Bechdel, it's in a group setting (might not?)
* Anarchist society is very feminist, other society is very misogynist (though presented critically)
* Very low bullshit
* Spaceships are there, but mostly terrestrial.

Hope this helps.