love to see posts about queer communities written by people living in these huge cities in the US like 'oh that universal experience of seeing another trans girl at a party etc' and being like, no, that isn't universal? i cannot say, to my memory, that i have physically been in the same room as another trans femme except my wife, and that's because she crossed the atlantic ocean to be with me, being in small rural communities is so isolating and gets ignored so easily
i'm so glad you live in one of those big US cities where apprently trans people are abundant and you can just, find other trans women to hang around with and date etc, sure would love it if i felt at all like i had any kind of local community like that
'just move to a big city in the uk' that would be wonderful if i weren't extremely disabled and completely dependent on the support network my family provides, i guess us rural queers just have to take one for the team and spend our lives alone
sorry i'm just unbelievably cranky today because of pain and various other things and seeing any more 'all trans girls do (x) and enjoy (x) and went to these events and enjoy (x) show' is going to make me explode, i'm sorry that i have a chronic condition that had robbed me of my ability to be independent and go to bars and clubs and concerts as a teenager, long before i realized i was trans, i'm sorry i don't fit your cookie cutter identity
am i still allowed to call myself a trans girl if i don't have a bocchi the rock profile picture and if i don't live in seattle and don't regularly go to house parties and don't have a stick thin figure, am i still allowed to be a trans girl if i need help getting dressed in the mornings and if i don't wear striped thigh highs, tell me
anyway hi i'm your cranky disabled trans woman for the day, please don't mind the chronic pain and the longing and the anger, it's only going to get worse