@KitsuneAlicia@octodon.social if a space claims to be friendly, it is overwhelmingly likely to be hostile to realising it Isn't Actually Friendly. with the single exception of when the marginalised people are the ones organising the space as well

and there are a lot of people who supposedly specialise in accommodations / caring for esp. disabled folx who just. have a worldview that's incompatible with being aware of the issues those people face