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Queer update: I'm super very queer.

We should normalise choosing your own name

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Fairies leave
when ordered
to fight each other.

the nightmare before cismas

One reason why the concept of gender euphoria matters just as much as gender dysphoria is that to figure out your transition path, it helps to know not only what you're running from, but also to know what you're running toward, too.

Gender dysphoria means recognizing that you have a feeling such as "I don't like having a penis, it really upsets me." Feelings like that are an important starting point for many trans people.

Gender euphoria can include recognizing your feelings about, for example, "what I would really *like* to have *instead* of a penis, given that there are a few different options available for me to get." (Those options can include a vagina, or a vulva without a vagina, or a null-patch, or some other combination of characteristics. Those are all surgical options that exist in real life today.)

Not wanting a penis does not necessarily imply wanting a vagina. The same idea goes for all other characteristics that we associate with the binaries of sex and gender. Not wanting something that's popularly associated with one sex/gender doesn't necessarily imply wanting an equivalent that's popularly associated with another sex/gender. Moving away from one side of a binary doesn't mean you have to automatically conform to every aspect of the other side of the binary.

Transition is about figuring out what works best for you as an individual. That means recognizing what makes you feel bad as well as what makes you feel good. That's going to be as unique to you as your other likes and dislikes.

Some trans people feel way more aware of their gender dysphoria than their gender euphoria, or vice versa, maybe even to the point that they don't think they feel one of the two. That's okay, that's just individual variation, too. Everybody has a few of their own challenges about figuring out their transition paths that makes them feel like they're trying to read a map in the dark, or with no compass.

Best wishes to you for being able to find your way along your transition path, even if it's hard for you to figure out what you want or what you can do. I'd like to think that gender euphoria is something that all trans people can eventually find their way toward.

@amic gender is a spectrum ranging from "not at all satisfied" to "very satisfied".

Who decided to call it questioning your gender and not being a

you know who doesn't make me feel safe? the police
you know who does make me feel safe? butch lesbians

whenever someone says "there are 11 white history months" i can't help but think "that's not right"

it's not like we stop hearing about white history in february. there are 12 white history months