transphobia, unnecessary gendering
On the same level, and what brought up the initial conversation: stuff like chest binders or funnels that allow you to piss standing up, which have branding decidedly aimed at cis women.
Like shops that emblazon everything with "TOMBOY" all over, meanwhile you're 35, look like Griffin McElroy, and are NOT a rambunctious little scamp -- you just want your tits covered.
transphobia, unnecessary gendering
And now cis people are all like, "They're stealing all our tomboys! They're stealing our butches!"
First of all, we weren't yours, second if you wouldn't consider Griffin or Daniel Radcliffe butch or super masculine, why are you calling my ass that when my gender presentation is the same sort of dorky hipster dad deal?
transphobia, unnecessary gendering
My masculinity is considered marked and excessive, whereas cis men with the exact same presentation are considered ordinary, or even somewhat unmanly and soft.
I could present in an absolutely androgynous way, or as a super femme twink, and it would not matter.
Because I'm rejecting that little F they put on my birth certificate without asking, I am inherently masc and butch and blahblahblah, when cis men doing the exact same things are not considered as such
transphobia, unnecessary gendering
The thing about "tomboy" as a term for me to identify with is, I was a deeply nerdy, bookish child who would have probably been beaten up and called a girl if I had been a cis boy, because I didn't like sports and was quiet.
Literally the only reason I was considered a tomboy was because cis adults did not know how to parse "child with F gender marker who hates wearing skirts"