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Me telling people my adoptive family is very abusive and violent at age 12: Haha, yeah, sure. Ok. You seem to be very introverted, let's work on that, huh?
Me telling people my adoptive family was very abusive and violent at age 35: Oh, that's awful! You went through so much! Why didn't anyone do anything?
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But my abusers were cishet white women, so, you know...shrug emoji!