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As I announced - I'm going to publish a longer essay on this, and I don't know where to start or how to finish right now.

I'm just saying this, even if it means my cancellation on this website forever: Cis women do harrass, they do abuse, they do RAPE.

I may have a dick and they don't but no is no and if I'm intoxicated and not in control of my own body, and hardly in control of my own voice, that needs to be respected rather than taking what you want and then claiming it was on me because to you I'm a "man" and therefore perpetually sexually available, even when I say I don't want this to happen.

Neither is an erection a declaration of consent. Any physical reaction can be forced.

And I'm not even getting started on abuse, on continuous harrassment (and I am well able to distinguish harrassment from flirting), and the disbelief and victim-blaming that comes with speaking out about it.

I'm just fucking sick and tired. You will hear more from me, unless you decide it's not worth picking up on.

As a victim of sexual harrassment (countlessly), abuse (lengthily), and rape (on at least two counts) by cis women, I'm starting to think "who's the one trying to cover up (their own, perhaps?) rape?" whenever I hear this.

By the gods, I'm starting to think that no one who comes up with that take that this is just a cover-up operation is possibly a rapist and definitely not to be trusted.

There is this idea that cis women are pristine beings who, on account of not having a dick (I'm gonna leave trans guys out of this because they're being disregarded by both traditional and queer feminism anyway), cannot possibly commit any of these atrocities.

But there is a huge difference between acknowledging that cis men being harrassers, abusers and rapists is a structural issue, and denying that cis women cannot be sexual predators.

And it feeds on essentialism - something that has never been advantageous for *any* marginalised group in history.

So... idk how to start this because as an ex-birdsite poster it seems like no one has ever manages to address this without being shouted down, and I expect to get a lot of blocks out of this, but I need to talk about it anyway.

This is the synopsis of a longer essay I'm going to publish soon-ish so I'll try to keep it brief but I might go off on a tangent anyway because it's an emotional topic, so expect a short thread rather than a single post.

Let's get right to it:
We need to stop acting like cis women cannot be harrassers, abusers, and rapists.
Whenever anyone I know has tried to talk about their experiences with this, they've been told that they're just trying to derail The Conversation (which, since it's about sexualised violence, must be about cis men, or, owing to both transmisia and the prerogative of interpretation that lies with "traditional feminists", trans women), and trying to cover up rape.

(cont.)

Do all the #assman fediversians know about the word callipygian, because it's a great word