social dynamics/social media
accidentally found out someone had unfollowed and soft blocked me on insta (b/c insta suggested them to me)
&
just having such a nice 'return this awkwardness to sender' moment, like i don't need to feel awkward about this if they are trying to disnegage or avoid me they can just do that & its their problem lol and if it's some other thing - i have permission to not care
& i can have grief or frustraton but i don't need to feel awkward or anxious! not my problem
social dynamics/social media
with this particular person it feels like a little sad, but fine
but
a few years ago someone i had been really close with did this on facebook and it felt fairly devastating, they were also fairly subtweety throughout our friendship
but the great thing is the same lesson applies! people get to have their digital boundaries, I can have my grief but i can just return the awkwardness to sender
social dynamics/social media
slowly over the course of my life trying to help my brain not read into things too much, and not be overinvested in anyone disproportionately or overinvested in being liked
and spend time and care on folks who are also spending time and care on me
and just trying to not be in friendships and relationships where it feels wrong to check in about our interest and care in one another; or ones where i feel anxious and insecure and don't feel safe to talk about it