t: its totally ok to be you, and be less social and more quiet, its totally great to be the you are
me: i feelll like i want be big and shiny and charismatic i'd be happier, i feel resistance
t: have you researched about introvertism? introverts can totally be big and the life of a party, and then when they need to rest they reallly need tbe alone
me: ooooooh maybe this might describe me