it's a little weird that pronouns can be such an important facet of gender identity when they mostly come up when the person in question isn't around
like, it's great hearing someone your correct pronouns. but even if I know your pronouns I will almost never have an opportunity to use them to your face
in this enby's opinion, it would be better the other way around - you should be empowered to affirm your own gender with every word you say, while someone talking about you out of earshot shouldn't have any say in the matter
fae unfolded faer wings (third-person)
fae unfolded faer wings (first-person)