magical @magical@computerfairi.es

I always hated writing because I thought writing was hard.

maybe it's actually that thinking is hard

it's weird how houses get smaller as you get bigger

is there a fediverse equivalent of @ennn_bot?

on masto and birdsite it's far too easy for me to fall into the habit of reading but not posting or responding, and I don't know how to break past that.

I can sort of manage it offline but it seems harder in the digital realm, at least for me

how does one make friends online? I'm very bad at it

so when is the Sam Smith + Janelle Monáe collab?

GNU Natalie Nguyen

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why
dooo you looove me
there must be something in the waaater
cuz baby i'm in deeper than i kne-e-ew
...
it's abooove and beyoond me
it's ouuuutt of my ha-ands
your loooove drives me craazy
it's hard to understand just why i
waaaant you to love me
i waaaant you to love me
i waaaant you to love me
i waaaant you to love me

Adele's "Why Do You Love Me" is such a bop - it's a shame it was only available as a bonus track

ok, i'll admit there's one advantage of not having pockets: you don't have to check them before throwing things in the laundry

anyway, saying "if you're non-binary then you're trans by definition because your gender identity doesn't match your assigned sex, sorry that's just how it is" sounds like very similar reasoning to me as saying "if you have a penis then you're male by definition because boys have penises, sorry that's just how it is" and I don't like where that leads

I'm not saying you have to have to medically transition to be trans! if you haven't, and you identify as transgender, great! good for you.

all I'm saying is it's pretty common (almost every trans person I know either already has or intends to medically transition in some way) and I don't feel comfortable adopting the term "trans" for myself.

and I'm not going to let anyone tell me that I can't be non-binary

however, I feel very little body dysphoria and I have no plans to pursue any sort of medical transition. so to call myself trans feels disingenuous. I can easily pass as cis if I want to. I will never face the kind of discrimination that, say, a trans woman might face. to call myself trans would be to erase the experiences of trans people who actually transition, and their unique hardships

I identify as non-binary because I reject the gender binary, because I refuse to be confined to any one (binary) gender, and because my presentation does not always match my assigned gender.