how does one make friends online? :psyduck: I'm very bad at it

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I can sort of manage it offline but it seems harder in the digital realm, at least for me

on masto and birdsite it's far too easy for me to fall into the habit of reading but not posting or responding, and I don't know how to break past that.

@PixiePrincess (I assume the answer'll turn out to be something along the lines of "don't be so shy", which isn't super useful advice, but...)

@magical I have the opposite problem 😭

… maybe we can timeshare our respective friends? :thinkhappy:

@magical You first! 😆

(In all seriousness: I just… find it easy to talk to people online? I don't know why… and finding cool people online is super easy, imo. Plenty of cool people here on Mastodon, and on IRC, and even on centralized platforms. And they I just reply to something they post, and we talk a bit, and then I say "want to be my best friend forever" but I don't actually type that… 🤷 )

@kirby what seems to work for me offline is to find groups. for example, in college I met several people i would consider friends through the Linux users group. more recently, i've been going to a local nb meet up and i'm starting to make friends through that. i'm usually super shy at first, but after a few meetings to get comfortable around people it's easier to open up.

@kirby of course, there's a big leap from knowing someone in a group to saying, "hey, you're cool, let's do something together outside the group". I'm really bad at it and it's something a want to work on. BUT in the meantime, just attending social groups like that fulfills a lot of my socialization needs. and it feels a lot better than twitter.

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