@Dayglochainsaw a quick thought, from someone who is non-kin and also had trouble with this:
i realized that i didn't need to understand perfectly in order to respect it.
it might confuse me, baffle me, and make my brain BSOD. but they understand it, and it is very important to them. it is an essential part of them.
i can be befuddled, but i remember the love i have for my kin friends, and the compassion i try to extend to others, and go "i don't understand and that's ok."
it's freeing.
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@Dayglochainsaw in other words - if kin folks are getting cancelled for promoting mental illness in your mind, shouldn't you get cut with the same sword by this promotion of "well at least i've started a fight and isolated myself, that's a totally good and valid way to go about such goals and a coping strategy i should promote explicitly by way of justifying my actions to everyone and assuring myself i am in the right"? after all, you are also promoting mental illness.
¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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@Dayglochainsaw basically, if your argument against kin folk is "this seems like glorification of mental illness and i'm not about that", to then go and use self-sabotage as a coping strategy is a bit weak, right?
it may be that the issue here is *not* you understanding kin folk, but instead you needing to go "perhaps picking fights online is not a good and condusive thing for my mental health and i should not use this as a strategy in future".
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@Dayglochainsaw @mew i don't have a horse in this race, but it seems like this is contradictory, yeah?
either 1) you genuinely don't understand and were seeking understanding, willing to listen to those with knowledge in good faith
OR, 2) you wanted to say something inflammatory on purpose in order to push people away because you felt overwhelmed/decided that was a good coping strategy/etc.
it's either one or t'other, it cannot be both simultaneously here
spoonie whining
i don't want anything unreasonable, ok?
i dont need to run marathons
i dont mind being in some pain
i just want to be able to take more than two showers a week
i just want to be able to reliably get to eat 3 meals a day and not 2 or 1 or 0 and just have to graze on snacks because i'm so nauseated from being in pain
why is that so impossible
one of the great realizations of adulthood for me has been that i don't need to understand somebody to respect them
like... i'm not trans. i struggle to comprehend some aspects. or kin folks. or folks who enjoy doing math for fun. even if these concepts kind of make my brain go error 404 not found, it don't mean i gotta fight that shit. i can just say i can't relate and that's fine and i can be cool about it anyway.
ok i know it's birdsite but #ffxiv tag... y'all.... https://twitter.com/ffxivtoilets i wheezed multiple times
@InspectorCaracal y'know what that's close enough to accurate honestly, just imagine it, like, out to politely wait for some garlic naan if it's being offered
i need to see if netflix's english subtitles for Amrapali are decent, and if they have other classic bollywood movies with Vyjayanthimala in them, and actually watch them instead of just looking at gifsets l m a o
i may have been reminded today how much of an awful curryboo i am, but every time i see gifsets of Amrapali floating around, the costumes are just... so... INCREDIBLE.
lewd, not a good joke
@monorail and 'selfie-insert' is when the dildo's got a camera on the end of it
...i think this object actually exists but i'm far too much of a coward to actually google it and find it
i've never played doom, but i have some ideas to put forward about #doomguy .
1. doomguy is a massive clingy cuddler if he likes you enough
2. also iron fucking grip
3. basically his version of cuddling is that he becomes a pillbug and you are in the middle somewhere
4. basically the closest a person can come to ball form while not being samus aran
5. it's very cute, if you don't need to get up and do anything for about 8 hours
30 y/o - token cishet - tumblr refugee. spoonie/15 chronic conditions in a trenchcoat/actual cyborg. just hangin' in there