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I'm totally in my element, and hubs is feeling railroaded. Another day in my life.
We've talked about an EV for months, we've looked, I knew what he likes. So I bought him one last week. Yesterday I got the plug installed and ordered the charger for the garage - delivered tomorrow. This morning I told him I need the details on the power rate plan we're on; what rates are charged at which time of day.

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He had a meltdown. First the car, then the charger, and now I'm pushing him to get the rate information. Why didn't I involve him in any of this?
Because he agonizes, and can't make a decision. He drags it out until forced into a decision by timing, and then he grumbles about it when he makes the decision I knew he was going to make all along. Let's skip all that and just get to the end.
Hubs is not happy. But he likes the car I bought him.

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@ScottSoCal @actuallyautistic I totally get where he’s coming from. I’ve improved in my decision-making but still don’t like surprises or not being informed nor consulted. I get upset at receiving gifts from HB which are things I’ve always wanted or would if I knew they existed. My HB is great at guessing things I will love. But I still don’t like surprises or not being consulted. It’s complicated πŸ˜†

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Surprising hubs is an astoundingly difficult thing to do, but this did. Despite me telling him we need to get him into an EV before me (my car gets 10+ higher mpg than his) and that I'd gotten pre-approved for financing with a 30 day deadline to buy, and that we were looking at cars for him. When I actually did it, he was surprised. I saw the car, the price, model, color all worked, and I did it. Much to his displeasure.

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