I'm totally in my element, and hubs is feeling railroaded. Another day in my life.
We've talked about an EV for months, we've looked, I knew what he likes. So I bought him one last week. Yesterday I got the plug installed and ordered the charger for the garage - delivered tomorrow. This morning I told him I need the details on the power rate plan we're on; what rates are charged at which time of day.
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@ScottSoCal @actuallyautistic
I can see that it might be annoying when decision making takes so long. Still, I feel it might have helped to announce the changes. And I wonder if a different communication could have helped: "I was wondering... Now that we have an EV, it might be useful to know at what time charging is least expensive. Do you have any thoughts on that? What is a good time to talk about this?" This way, you create an interest instead of demanding sth.
@Sci_Fi_FanGirl @actuallyautistic
I announced, he decided not to hear.
I'm in my element because this is about specifications and operation and mechanical/electronic things. He goes by subjective reviews and impressions.
[shrug] The math worked.
@ScottSoCal @actuallyautistic What could help him hear?
@Sci_Fi_FanGirl @actuallyautistic
He looks for subtext and hidden meaning (and what he'd do if our positions were reversed), and decides that's what I *actually* meant. He's done this for 31 years.
What I actually meant is what I said. If I'd meant something else, I'd have said something else. He has trouble with that concept.
@ScottSoCal @actuallyautistic
Ugh, it so annoying when people don't believe that you actually mean what you say π
It seems to bother you quite a lot. So, what do you want to do about it?
@Sci_Fi_FanGirl @actuallyautistic
Hubs and I have a complicated relationship, for historical reasons. I think he anticipates me taking some decisive action (like divorce) that I don't plan to take. The car confuses and upsets him because if our positions were reversed, he wouldn't have done it, and he doesn't understand why I did.
I did it because it's the rational thing to do, it benefits both of us.
@Sci_Fi_FanGirl @actuallyautistic
Now you're trying to read subtext into what I'm saying. And you're doing it with what you already know is a small subset of all the data. I'm not sure how that's productive.
@ScottSoCal @actuallyautistic I said I might be wrong. You're right that I don't know you and don't have sufficient data. Was just giving my impression as I thought it might be worth considering the idea. But I really don't want to bother you.