@actuallyautistic
I'm fairly sure I'm not alone in this, as a late realised autistic person:

Now that I know I'm autistic, even some pretty painful experiences have a sort of positive undertow.

For example, when I, once again, blurt out something totally oblivious to the social situation I'm in and then do the usual OMG why do I do that cringe dance, there's also a part of me going * yay more proof that I really am autistic!!!!! *

@Zumbador @actuallyautistic
Couldn't agree more. Not only does knowing allow us to look back with a lot more kindness and grace. But it also allows us to deal with today with far more understanding. It's so much easier dealing with honest mistakes, misunderstandings and so many of our "moments" without automatically going into lashing ourselves with guilt and self-hatred and shame mode.

@Pathfinder @Zumbador @actuallyautistic IME, "guilt and self-hatred and shame mode" is the main downside of being #AuDHD. My worst (those which caused the greatest offence) faux pas come back to me even after decades have passed. I wish there was a way to consign them to a well-deserved resting-place. Any thoughts, anyone?