@nellie_m @actuallyautistic @benjamincox indeed - after asking to be told what was expected from me for different meetings, for example, or being invited no later than 24hrs ahead unless a real emergency so I could prepare, I was told
"That's not how we currently work, so you have to figure something out on your end to handle it"
I gave up trying to explain 'accommodation' 😮💨
@loops @nellie_m @actuallyautistic @benjamincox
I handle that by responding "Why are you inviting me to this meeting?" if the purpose isn't made clear on the invite.
I've been told some people have interpreted that as hostile. I see it as to-the-point.
Except I'm not asking why the meeting is being held, I want to know what my role in the meeting is supposed to be. Which hat am I expected to wear, and is my presence even necessary? I've got other stuff to do. If this is a meeting to decide whether we should have a meeting, count me out.
(Not hyperbole, I've been in one of those.)
@ScottSoCal Why don't you ask those questions then?
@ScottSoCal (see what I did there 😉 )
@ScottSoCal it helps if you reformulate "why" as "what is the purpose of this meeting?". "Why" has, in general, an undertone of negativity, "What's the purpose?" is more goal-oriented. And yet, equally to the point.
Give it a try.