Some autistic people find making phone calls extremely stressful and unpleasant and will avoid them at all costs.
Please don’t try and force your communication preferences on others.
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@autism101 @actuallyautistic the thing is that many people don't see texts and emails as "synchronous messages" they don't require an immediate response, whereas a phone call usually does.
(also: isn't not using the phone also forcing your communication preferences on others who might prefer the phone?)
@JeroenRombouts @autism101 @actuallyautistic It is impolite to demand a more intense style of communication. Phone calls are more intense than text messages. Therefore, the default is to go to the lower intensity type of messaging.
@TeacherGriff @autism101 @actuallyautistic this doesn't make sense. I can't respond to an email from a colleague by walking to his or her desk because that is more intense?
I have no problems making accommodations for people after they have asked me to. But to invent general rules of politeness is a stretch.
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I agree that assuming default rules is fraught, and not the way forward. It's better to cultivate an attitude of willingness to understand and adapt as needed. No defaults, just good faith willingness to flex, because no one can predict what will or won't work for everyone. To me this is a neurodiversity principle
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@independentpen @autism101 @actuallyautistic I agree with this too. Especially since my version of neurodiversity (ADHD) makes remembering and sticking to hard and fast rules is difficult.
That's what my hubs would do (get an email, respond by going to their office), in his case because he's incredibly insecure about his writing/spelling/grammar. When he got to executive management level at his old job, I wrote all his memos for him.
I'd rather write a novel length e-mail than talk to someone face-to-face.
