So, I've been slowly adjusting and updating things on my social media to make this announcement less stressful on myself.
After years of questioning, after several months of therapy and support, I figured out something about myself:
I'm non-binary.
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It took me a while to like, figure out who I was (besides "not a cis male"), and being NB seems to be the most comfortable fit for me.
This may change someday, maybe it won't. For now, though, I'm okay with non-binary. 
Oh yeah, pronouns. I've put "prefers they/them" in my profile for the past few months, which is not something I'm strictly enforcing.
To me pronouns don't really matter? It doesn't bother me as much if someone says "he/him" because they're not *wrong*. So use whatever pronouns fit, idk