thoughts on the q word
having a really hard time here lately with the word queer. i know that it upsets a lot of people for very valid reasons and that for a lot of people it’s still a slur but..... it’s how i identify. it feels so much more right than “bi” or even “pan” and it took me so much time to feel confident enough to finally identify as queer and it felt so so good to start identifying as that and saying it and claiming that word. so to feel like i now shouldn’t be saying it is.. tough
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@pbandkate i don’t want to upset people and i don’t want to make this space feel less safe for people but at the same time i don’t want to not use the word that feels the most right for me, so im feeling at a bit of a loss. i don’t use queer as a catch all but i know even just seeing the word can trigger stuff do people so i just really don’t know what to do.
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@pbandkate
If you use it for yourself and someone else take a problem with it that's THEIR issue and it's a good chance that was a gatekeeper.
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@pbandkate
oops sorry I thought this was a new reply
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@pbandkate
Letting those who police others of how they describe their identities, especially with a reclaimed word and possess strong TERF/truscum undertones into queer spaces actually make it less safe for people.