it would be one thing if they thought my idea was bad, or that it didn't fit their problem, or whatever

but just straight up saying stuff like "that's too much work" or "but I'm too lazy for that" *without mentioning spoons or disability*

all I hear is "how can I trick someone into doing stuff that I am fully capable of doing myself"

fell for it too often in the past and I ain't fallin' for it now