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I'm single and lonely and other people are out there with literal 200 person polycules wtaf
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I mean I guess I don't have an issue with being in a polycule of that size but I do have to wonder about the impulse to chart the thing
and also why am I not invited, I'm told I'm a good kisser
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@lambdagrrl FWIW, because I think I know the source of this, while some people find it fun to talk about being "in the same polycule" with >200 people, it's really no more meaningful than Erdös or Bacon numbers to mathematicians and actors. Most of those people have never even interacted with each other; there are just some connected hubs.
(And some people find personal record-keeping to be, like, a relaxing meditative thing? I sure as heck don't, but.)
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@klara I mean yes but also this person was talking about having run a conference. For the polycule.
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@lambdagrrl Yeah, we're definitely talking about the same person, and I promise that the reality of it is not what you're imagining. She's using that kind of language for a dozen queers processing together in a living room because she's happy that it was possible to do that without it being a disaster.
(And, I mean, I do totally get feeling like shit when other people are happy about their relationships and you're single. I've been there, and it sucks.)
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@lambdagrrl *hug, if you're in the mood for text hugs from people you've only tangentially met at a conference once*
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@klara *hug* thanks, sorry I'm probably a bit much when I'm like this
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@klara I hate being like this. I want to be happy for others but it's so fucking difficult when I can't be happy for myself.