My shitty ex and their ableism and abuse
My ex liked to say my sensitive hearing was not just a weird meat-body thing, but a "Sign of Autism" -that no one but an autistic person could be hurt by noise, the more pain, the more obviously autism.
Well, I have measurable hearing loss now and noises that hurt before no longer bother me. Does that make me less autistic?
My shitty ex and their ableism and abuse
(I do not have autism. My ex
used autism-as-a-self-diagnosis to control people around them, because to the ex, "science proved" that autistic brains were "too inflexible to appropriately" interpret their own experiences" and thus anyone they deemed to have autism needed a "real person" like them to tell the autistic person what to do and how to be. )
My shitty ex and their ableism and abuse
It's a sucky combo of ableism, gaslighting, and concern trolling masquerading as allyship that's damn hard to get out from under. It was for me, anyway. (They would say I haven't. "Denying you have autism is, itself, a Sign of Autism," they said to me often.)