#ActuallyAutistic community!
How do I make friends as an adult? I'm new to my area and don't have any local friends or community. Have been struggling with loneliness a lot lately.
Trying to make queer friends since coming out has been a complete disaster. Since a lot of us autistics are queer, and I feel more of a connection to the autistic community than the queer community, I figured maybe asking my #ActuallyAutistic peers for advice might be a good idea.
@magicalgrrrl @actuallyautistic
It's been my experience that I am mostly welcome in the corners of the queer world that are ND. The rest of it seems very NT oriented & centric. That's okay, it just mimics the straight world. But it's important to keep in mind when seeking out friendships.
@Frances_Larina @magicalgrrrl @actuallyautistic This might explain a lot about why my experiences of queer communities so often differ from others I hear about. I think I tend to end up in communities where ND folks and queer folks congregate, even though they're not necessarily explicitly either. -Cole
@madewokherd @magicalgrrrl @actuallyautistic
It does help, even if it's not always applicable! Something I've noticed is that LGBTQ spaces that are more ND are also more queer & less assimilationist. It could just be a tiny sample, but it's been my experience that the more nonbinary/agender/etc people there are, the more ND the group or space tends to be. I think perhaps that's just self selection by both NT and ND people?
@Frances_Larina @magicalgrrrl @actuallyautistic And I think the way that happened for me was by pursuing specific interests that bring in both kinds of folks. But since that depends on what your particular interests are, it doesn't really work as advice. -Cole