age & relationship nonsense //
and the whole thing where, like, if you get to 30+ with no long-term sustaining relationships
everyone else in roughly your maturity bracket should have like 2-4 already? and *should* have lives and interests and hobbies that extend beyond any one relationship
like, anyone worth consuming will have better things to do than let me consume them.
re: age & relationship nonsense //
I guess what I want is something like the stereotypical teenage(?) relationship where you don't really know who you are & you don't really know who they are either & so you just want to mush yourself up with them and try to approximate being a whole person together?
except w/ everyone involved having a mature sense of self & bringing a whole person with history to the relationship
so the opposite of that, I guess, except kinda. still. like.
re2: age & relationship nonsense //
like I don't think 20y/os really have the self-awareness or emotional competence to be committing to big lifelong relationships
but at the same time
it doesn't feel like you're supposed to go through your 20s without having someone like that, either. like you should have an anchor or a counterweight to figure this shit out with.
re2: age & relationship nonsense //
@lioness I doubt another person would've helped with that. -Menderbot (previous post was also me)