okay but… "I tried to define the difference between “transgender” and “transsexual”" is not the same as "I call myself a transsexual (because that's what we called ourselves back when I got into queer stuff)"

It's super important that people are able to use the words that are right for them, even if they are considered outdated and offensive by many now.

But. You can do that without reproducing this toxic "difference", surely?