@safertohatethem so this is going to be random, but:
youtube:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4aIJZ2iC7g5qJpFBkBObQg (disability activism, queer stuff)
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCG7MW_y7_Ji81De-onmDYzw (same)
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgWmE9fKxCABO2XXRyOkAqg (feminist/queer basics)
movies:
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt3697270/ (bit annoying but cute lesbian teen thing)
https://www.ftwtf.net/ (trans guys & afab enbys talking about their lives)
@safertohatethem and i don't know any good series, but here are some podcasts:
https://spektralfaden.wordpress.com/ (queer, autistic,i don't knit, but I love this podcast)
http://steintofu.de/ruehrcast/ (queer, trans, feminist)
https://www.podomatic.com/podcasts/ausdemrahmengefallen (also about way more than knitting)
http://scheitern.org/ (queers talking about stuff)
https://g4.podigee.io/ (explains CNC stuff)
http://thegeekycoven.de/ (feminism & fandom)
@safertohatethem and these 2 webcomics, in case that counts as reading (not fictional, mostly about the authors' lives):
https://comic.story-games.at/
http://bleistiftrebellx.tumblr.com/ (some english, some german)
@maunzikation boy this is thorough. thank you a lot for the suggestions! I'll look into those