how do you get started in kink/bdsm spaces if you don't know anybody? it seems like everybody publicly visible about kink is years-old established in it and there's no welcoming space for newbies who don't have the right connections. who do you go to if you need the hand-holding?
@mavica_again local scenes often put on a slosh or munch that’s meant to help people socialize and get into the scene, which are usually advertised in places like fetlife. our local one has designated “guides” who wear nametags and help you meet similar people.
@mavica_again that can honestly be a lot harder unless you know the right people. which I don’t like either to be honest
the answer is unfortunately probably still fetlife groups until you find one that also maintains like, a local discord server or what have you