It's frustrating how people use BDSM as a subcategory term and by that use, keep the focus of kink concepts on bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism, without really even being aware of doing so. Like, what if I like D/s stuff that doesn't involve bondage or sadism? I feel like people just don't... do that, not in kink media.

..... this is basically why that big fuss about which letters to add to LGBT happened, isn't it.

(Then again I don't really like sex in my kink so what do I know.)