i will say though there's something that i find endlessly charming, in that asian #lolitafashion sellers often address you as "sweetie" and so forth to indicate the vibe they're going for, even in things like customer service

and as a southerner this is delightful

a random dude calling me sweetie? BANNED. ILLEGAL. TO BE REBUFFED WITH EXTREME PREJUDICE.

a lolita fashion seller addressing me as 'sweetie' around language barrier? BEAUTIFUL. BLESSED. LOVELY.