also if any of y'all glance at advice columns just to throw popcorn - may i commend the ABSOLUTE TURBOWEENIE that is the first letter writer's boyfriend, for everyone to go and mock https://slate.com/human-interest/2019/04/no-period-sex-advice-boyfriend-hates-menstruation.html
i think the answer to the first letter is honestly way too gentle
the answer is DTMFA
(many answers to relationship advice columns are DTMFA but in my defense, very many motherfucking assholes often need to be dumped)
their sex column hands out some spectacularly bad advice tbh that is kind of amusing to spectate
for example: no you shouldn't investigate your new kink of flashing other drivers
you don't need to get into kink ethics
it's called
you are piloting a large hunk of metal and high speeds and so are the people around you, so Do Not Intentionally Distract Them Or Yourself, that is a Bad Thing. Please Don't Do That. You Can't See To Drive With Your Shirt Pulled Up At Your Ears.