not all masculinity is bad ofc but i think we can safely say that the attitude of "men! don't take pleasure in things unless they are SUFFICIENTLY MANLY. if you decide you want a body wash that smells nice or a blanket that is cozy, you must GROVEL for your INSUFFICIENCY" is toxic. it's like your two choices are "an enjoyable experience" and, at best, "tactical", and goddamn, we gotta go rescue the men from this "you don't get to enjoy things"
@wigglytuffitout not to mention how horribly toxic it is to push the message "MANLY MEN don't ENJOY THINGS unless they're ASSOCIATED WITH (GUN) VIOLENCE" all that "tactical" crap... uuugggghhhhhh
@troodon HONESTLY... i mean, dang, it's also got to fucking hurt to be told over and over that your purpose interacting in the world is only to find things that are tactically advantageous, not things that are *enjoyable*. like if you aren't able to explain how it's making you more powerful, you aren't allowed to have it at all, because that is your only concern.
i mean jesus christ. that's gotta warp the brain. we need to slam dunk all these poor men into nice bubble baths ASAP
