@KitRedgrave@cybre.space honestly, while I think that they were very formative experiences, and I'd be a different person without them, different isn't bad.

I think we all have the opportunity to find or own experiences. My life has been changed by such small things as deciding to go to a queer youth group meeting, or decoding to go on a particular website at a particular time.

It's really entirely a matter of opening yourself up to those opportunities.