genderfeels, -
Just saw someone post that no trans person has ever described gender as based on feelings, and now I'm questioning if I'm making all this up as an excuse to wear pretty dresses as what I've been calling gender is SUPER based on feelings.
Some days I want to go with the nice safe default option and it FEELS like an old comfy pair of shoes
Some days I FEEL pretty and seductive and want to be femme
Some days I FEEL like fucking with gender and want both at once
gender, -, fears I'm a fake
but if that isn't how gender works i'm juts a guy who wears pretty dresses and should stop lying about it.
But there was that time it felt WRONG to be <name> and he/him and that makes me think this is real? :(
FUCK I wish there were easy answers.
gender, -, fears I'm a fake
@storm Whatever you want? That's what's real. Gender is whatever you want it to be. Maybe it doesn't mean much of anything to me, but I know for my partners, it means a lot. Both feelings are valid. You are valid. Everyone is making it up as they go along. What's most important is to do what you need to for yourself to be happy.
gender, -, fears I'm a fake
@Anarkat Thank you