Transgender, uplifting/support (aimed at folks who are early in their journey)
By request, here's a public version of a toot I wrote as a reply to someone asking for encouragement. I hope this can help encourage you, too.
It's natural to want to run away from scary things like transitioning. Even if it's difficult and scary right now, the urge to run away and give up or get rid of things (like feminine clothing, make-up, etc.) that you've obtained to help you feel better is a fight-or-flight response.
It sounds so much easier to give up, but from my experience...even if it hurts now, it'll hurt even more later if you do give up.
Think of how you want to see yourself in five years. Don't think about right now or what could happen during transition; think about the person you want to strive to be. How does it make you feel when you think about it? It may seem like a dream. It did for me.
When I started transition, I never thought I'd ever be able to look like anything other than a dude. I catastrophized about worst-case scenarios, fully believing that these bad things would 100% happen. I wanted to give up so badly because I didn't think I'd ever have a "successful" transition. But I didn't give up, even though it hurt so much. I couldn't bear the thought of things being the same as they were then in another five years.
I won't say that transitioning is easy. Mine was full of stumbles and hardship. I lost my entire "family" (blood relatives). Bad things did happen. But here I am, 6 years later, and I actually ended up closer to what I had wanted to become. I feel like myself. It's life-changing. It was difficult. But I wouldn't have become who I am today had I not gone through with it. I regret nothing. This is a glimpse of my story.
It's your decision to make. I want you to think about how you feel. Even if you decide not to transition, you are still valid. You are still trans. You are still one of us. And you will still have my support. <3
Ok, I'm really angry. GTK4 will REMOVE ACCESSIBILITY FEATURES: https://gitlab.gnome.org/GNOME/gtk/issues/1739
No screen reader or braille displays, no eye tracking for the paralyzed, no information to screen magnifiers so they can move while typing, no . 100% fuck you GTK. Fuck. You.
What does this mean for disabled people? Back to Windows for you!
trans experiences
Every trans person experiences gender differently
You might find being trans painful, or something compulsive you couldnโt help but be
But other people may have found being trans more benevolently, by just experimenting and finding what made them the most comfortable
These experiences are not the same, but both are valid. And one is not better than the other, and one does not invalidate the other or say anything about what the other experiences
On trans bodies +
I love trans bodies and I really love being a part of a community that celebrates trans bodies.
This is really the only place where I can find the kind of transgressive joy that comes from posting a nude and instead of being met with awkwardness, revulsion, fetishization or silence, I am met by warmth, love, appreciation and kindness.
And I get to see that experience repeated when people post their nudes again and again and again.
Donโt ever forget how powerful that is.
20s | trans girl | useless lesbian | retro game and tech enthusiast | cat witch
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