i think i've narrowed it down to "i live in the middle of a city and every single 2.4 GHz channel is completely congested but 5 GHz is fine, however for some reason my computer and router don't want to connect over 5 GHz sometimes" which i have somehow fixed by setting the router's 2.4 GHz channel to the channel with the MOST interference, so that it forces 5 GHz? i have no idea if this is happening but now i'm getting 100 Mbps again. so.. maybe time to set up the 5 GHz AP with its own SSID
@jk 5ghz gets absorbed and reflected a lot easier so it's harder to actually use in other rooms