Look, I either want high-level tests of mechanical knowledge and skill where I get to grind it out by myself, OR I want low-level vibing out that I can experience with other people without feeling pressured. And I somehow never manage to find either.
This is a generalization obviously. FFXIV has a ton of low-level grind mechanics that I could enjoy without ever touching raids. And there are plenty of games that offer raiding gameplay without the pressure of other people. But it's also... different somehow, in a way I can't explain.