now feeling totally justified in never having seen this damn show https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/2023/05/11/good-doctor-memes-autism/ @actuallyautistic #actuallyautistic
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I've watched it from the beginning, and I enjoy it, but hubs refuses to watch it - he says it feels exploitive. I understand why he feels that way.
It is a gimmick, with an overly-broad paintbrush, but just as I identified with The Doctor and Seven of Nine trying to figure out their humanity on Voyager, there are aspects of Sean Murphy figuring out how to "people" well that I relate to.
@ScottSoCal yeah, I totally get what you’re saying. I flip between liking it lost my and truly loathing the portrayal. It feels A LOT like how other #marginalized groups are portrayed in media: harmful #stereotypes that the #mainstream finds amusing or familiar. It’s for #ratings really. It’s not to educate or expand minds. #ActuallyAutistic #TheGoodDoctor @fidalgo @actuallyautistic
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I would love to have a show called e.g. "Normal Person" that stereotypes neurotypical behaviors.
Maybe with some explanations why the NT behave like they do.
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"Wow, this is an unforeseen situation. Let me react in the moment without apprehension or anxiety about misspeaking."
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One of the things that started me on the path to this group was a post that wound up on my home feed, talking about "scripting". It was described as rehearsing what you're going to say, before you say it. I've always done that, and I game it out, anticipating where the conversation might go, so I'm ready. Sometimes it winds me up for a confrontation, and sometimes it calms me down, but I always do it.
@dirtyoldtown That is a lesson I learned after I came out the first time. Most of them are so utterly clueless they have no idea how contorted we can be inside. They’ll notice when we misstep a cue but if we’re reeeeallly good at #masking they just have no clue, and are confused even more if we tell them what was really going on. @ScottSoCal @wakame @fidalgo @actuallyautistic
@btaroli @ScottSoCal @wakame @fidalgo @actuallyautistic I'm so tired being told I am "verbal for an autistic person." I mean, YEAH, I sound fine to you because I spend every waking hour practicing human interaction to the extent that I'm exhausted after a half day. But I sound like a weirdo to you the moment I am called upon to say something I have not practiced 37x.
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We don't just plan ahead for things like vacation travel.
We plan ahead for walking out the front door.
@ScottSoCal oh man yes. Or replaying and reconsidering every part of an interaction after to second guess everything I said in case I need to apologize or just feel awkward about it. 🤣 @dirtyoldtown @wakame @fidalgo @actuallyautistic
@ScottSoCal @wakame @btaroli @fidalgo @actuallyautistic Oh god yes. My entire adult life is divided into situations I prepared for endlessly and am told I am very well-spoken and intelligent for based on my reaction and things I had not foreseen that make me react like an alien and everyone wonders what precisely my deal even is.