Need advice for getting new clothes [1/2]
I'm becoming very uncomfortable with my clothes. I hate to wear most of my old clothes, which are predominantly masc. I really want more femme ones, preferably androgynous.
(Yes, my parents used to choose and buy my clothes, but I really need to find a new style, also because of gender... My clothes lasted many years, but it's time to get new ones that I want to choose myself.)
So I need to divide the problem into two problems.
1. Finding a new style (see next toot)
2. Getting new (or, perhaps even better, second-hand) clothes
Advice is appreciated for each of these steps :)
Being #actuallyAutistic doesn't make either of these steps easy. Regarding step 2:
- Visiting stores causes very high anxiety before entering. If I manage to enter, I get severely overstimulated by the many ads, people, and garments. I twice tried to visit the local free-shop, but I just was too anxious 😐
- Trying new clothes is very stressful
- Some sensory issues (see next toot)
- Online shopping is also stressful and complicated since I don't have (and really don't want to have) a credit card; I only pay via IBAN
- Getting used to new clothes or even an entirely new style is also difficult; I usually only make small changes
re: Need advice for getting new clothes [1/2]
Google maps is my friend. If it's a store I'm new to/not comfortable with, I do a virtual visit on Google maps. They usually have lots of photos of the interior and exterior of the store, and I can get a clear picture of it before I go in. If the store has a website, I can visit that and get an idea of the products they sell, cross-referencing it to the photos, so I know where things are put. It makes everything easier.
