Reading wikipedia on autism for Reasons (tm).
I don't get it. Why is it so important that we don't stim? Like, there are some that are contextually inappropriate (loud noises when it might disturb others, for instance), but outside of those few things ... what's the problem with hand flapping, body wiggling, hair twirling, vocalizing in repetitive ways when it's not distracting/disturbing, etc, etc, etc?
Bah, humbug >.< @actuallyautistic
probably something related to Catholicism and asylums. those people love ableist violence.
@crashglasshouses @melindrea @actuallyautistic
Well, and the influence of people like this...
My grandparents and great grandparents scarcely touched their children. Posture and proper sitting and so on-- even just a lingering whiff of that culture is chilling and far more widespread than a lot of people may realize.
@violetmadder @melindrea @actuallyautistic
my parents often claimed, in my childhood, that they didn't know how to parent cause "there's no manual included", but i've often wondered "you had a childhood too, so what the fuck? did you learn nothing??"
i wonder how much of this is what was going on :P
@crashglasshouses @melindrea @actuallyautistic
Ohhh there have been manuals. Horrible, very bad, terrifying manuals.
And I mean, we don't live communally with extended family that's supposed to fill in those blanks like daily.
@violetmadder @melindrea @actuallyautistic
i'm aware that "manuals" exist, but that's not what they meant. it's more like they were saying they have no idea what they're doing, as if there were no examples to follow. it was also the 80s, when there wasn't a lot of talk of respecting children as people instead of as objects and property, so there wasn't a lot of help in that regard either. just those reactionary, homophobic "manuals".
It's possible they were trying to avoid the mistakes their parents made, so they were in uncharted territory.
I know when I was looking at becoming a parent, one of the most important things to me was not to re-create the abuse my parents created.
@ScottSoCal @violetmadder @melindrea @actuallyautistic
they failed immensely in that regard.