It is a little frustrating that I've spent all of today cooking or cleaning, and my husband is fucking around in VR, and if I mention it to him he'll be "I GUESS I'M NEVER ALLOWED TO HAVE FUN THEN"
Like, that is never what I mean. I don't mean "I'm not having any fun so you're not allowed to have any fun". I don't mean "please get rid of your VR equipment and all your toys and live a joyless existence from here on because I'm a hateful bitch"
I just want to know where MY fun is. Where MY rest is.
But I guess I better stir the bolognese and clean up the kitchen.
@Tarale if you can't talk to him about this in a reasonable manner then... yeah, something is wrong. either y'all need couples counseling or somethin but that ain't healthy
@Xkeeper apparently this shit is super common as soon as a baby arrives in a household. There's a massive increase in work to be done, and it almost always winds up being distributed super unevenly. And because one parent goes to work and earns money for everyone it's super common for them to flip their wig when the stay at home parent begs for some help
@Xkeeper He's not actually calling me a hateful bitch or anything, btw. He just overreacts to me getting frustrated when he's off having fun and I'm being cook or dish pig or laundress…
@Tarale That's still not at all fair. I knew (or at least hoped) he wasn't saying those things, but the way you're being treated is still unhealthy
@Xkeeper I think all he hears is criticism and the kneejerk reaction to that is defensiveness. I don't think it helps that society at large tells him the labour he performs in exchange for a wage is inherently more useful than the unpaid labour I'm performing at home
@Tarale yeah :/ ...
@Tarale urgh.