I'm out to my partner. Friends will be next, family (mum, dad, step-parents...) are more complicated. I'm thinking of putting an FAQ on my site so I can just say:
Hey. I'm trans! My name is Aura. My pronouns are now she/her. I realise this is a lot to process. Read the FAQ at this link.
I want to get across that I care what each person thinks, but not enough to debate them or have a bad faith conversation. I don't want to lose anyone, but if I do it's not on me. The FAQ should cover all the important bits. If they have questions after that then I'll be patient and humour them.
I mean, there's going to be a shitstorm. I announced my marriage to my partner on Facebook (yeah yeah, it was 2012, fuck off) for shits and giggles and was in the bad books for months.
Hey Siri, can you rewrite this thread in a way that means someone comes up to me with a pudding cup and says sorry?
@aura tbh we came out as trans on facebook in 2014 (after being out to closer friends since 2011) simply not to deal with family face to face so you're valid
@mavica_again yeah, I’m not surprised it goes this way ❤️
@mavica_again and thank you
That all said, I think I'm going to tell my brother. We rarely actually talk, but we're still somehow quite close and I think he'll be supportive.