Important notes on forgiveness
Forgiveness is for you and you alone. No one needs to ask you for it, and it's not something you give anyone. It is you giving up resentment (to which you have a *right*, mind you), and doing what it takes to heal.
It is not reconciliation. You don't have to like those you forgive. It is not just moving on. You still need to heal. And, most importantly, it is not. forgetting. ...
Important notes on forgiveness
Forgive and forget is the most bullshit thing anyone has ever said. Forgive, for sure. But don't forget. To forget is to leave yourself open to the same wrongs you suffered in the first place. Forgive, but learn the lessons that need to be learned. Don't. just. forget.
Important notes on forgiveness
Some more on what forgiveness isn't:
- Leniency. Consequences can still be had.
- Condoning or excusing behaviour. You can forgive someone for that which you condemn.
- Revenge or "letting god handle it". It is not hurting someone who's hurt you. (That's a different thing, that may or may not be justified.)
- "Giving it time". It's an active process.
- A quick fix. It takes time.
- Moving on. That's merely a part of it, not the entirety.
