On Trans Narratives
Callie Wright, in an interview on the podcast “Gender Reveal” made a really good point about how our stories are often told in such a way as to not be about *us* but to be about the situation and struggles and adaptations of those around us.
This is what happens when cis people tell our stories. Even when they do it well, they center the cis characters. The cis partners of trans folks. The parents of trans children. The adult children of older trans folks.
Our perspectives aren’t considered nearly as relatable and so they are set aside.
And this is one of the reasons I love “Nevada”—at the end of the day it’s half Maria’s story and half James’ but in no way is it about cis people.
One day I hope I have a story worth telling, and you can best believe it will center us.
Trans -, some caps
When b8nders work, they look like a sportsbra on me.
When they don't I cry, feel like shit, and take it off until the next time I get tired of bras.
I knew binders would be a minefeild.
Do all tmascs a favor, and whenever you see them distressing about their chest, maybe don't suggeat binders as a midway, because frankly:
1. We've heard it
2. It's not the same
3. It doesn't always work
4. THAT DOESN'T GET RID OF THE PROBLEM
@wilbr @kiilas it was pretty much standard practice to respect the pronouns of trans characters in medieval texts. The best-known example is a 13th c. French poem called Silence, in which the author changes the pronouns of the main character depending on how the character is presenting at that point in the story. The majority of texts I've read follow this pattern
cw: body positivity
im not ashamed to admit that i love my traditionally gorgeous and impossibly shapely wife -- others may mock her heaving bosom or her powerful glutes or her thick mane of lustrous curls or her taut, golden skin but me, i am proud to have insane amounts of torrid sex with her, my disgusting, sexy wife
a bug, not a feature.
Genderless* cyberfae & co. at your service
assigned adult by the inexorable passage of time
don't use he/him or she/her pronouns for any of us without express permission
note that if we ever make you uncomfortable in any way please tell us so we know to stop. we're not always good at figuring these things out on our own